Today marks 17 years since finding out that I am HIV+. So many years later I am still undetectable (meaning I cannot transmit the virus) and healthier than ever (my t-cells are in the range of a healthy HIV- person).
Sadly people still get infected, and unfortunately only 1 out 3 HIV+ people actually get treatment and take medication regularly. HIV is a chronic illness today, not a death sentence, as it was once. I cannot transmit the virus, if I stay undetectable and my partner takes PrEP (Undetectable=Untransmittable).
I have always been upfront about my status. Thought that has brought me some rejection, it has also given me confidence that I have never lied about being POZ. Unfortunately some HIV+ people will tell you that they are “negative on PrEP”, because it is easier than having to explain what is undetectable. Do not trust anyone just because you want to get laid. Ask to see their medications or latest lab results. Anyone who is taking any other medication than Truvada, is HIV+.
At the same time, please treat people who are HIV+ with respect and compassion. Though the illness is manageable, there is still a lot of stigma and shame attached to it. Get educated, ask questions, be open minded.